b'WHAT IS A MODERN MAN?Inspiring Positive Masculinity.T hree years ago, I was driving home oneWhen speaking with many men, I found a real distaste for evening after seeing a client. My chest startedthe word masculinity and almost a fear to be described to tighten. It got worse and worse. By theas masculine or male.Insisting that we are all the same time I got home I thought I was going to die.and that they dont see any difference between men and I managed to get out of my car and into the housewomen.but collapsed on the floor.At our highest level of connection, we are all humans My wife, at the time, called the ambulance. My daughtersbut to ignore our gender is, I believe, detrimental to our were worried. It made no sense. I was really fit andconfidence and ability to truly love and except ourselves. healthy, I was boxing competitively at the time andCountless mens groups, forums and movements online and recently won a fight - yet here I was having a heart attack? offline - fitness, relationships, business, wellbeing, mental Or so I thought. Turned out to be a panic attack.health, but there was still space for something differentYou see I was suffering from a huge amount of stress fromWhat about the man who want to reconnect with the running that business. Stuff I didnt want to tell anyonemasculine but also be able to benefit from balanced about. Financial difficulties mainly. I kept it to myselfenergies? What about the man who wants to grow, to because thats what men do. Right? deepen his relationships, to be more honest but at the I accepted I needed help same time find a way to manage his challenging times?Thats when I discovered hypnotherapy. It changed myThere was space for something different.life. In addition to helping me with the presenting problemAs a coach, I work with men who have been through I took to my therapist, it also opened the neural pathwaysdivorce, break ups, bereavement or who are having a between my conscious and unconscious minds.It felt likemid-life crisis. These events can lead to the type of taking my brain to the gym. negative behaviours that create poor mental health.So, I decided I wanted to learn more and studied it. Drinking, smoking, drug consumption, isolation, sleeping I became a Master Hypnosis Practitioner and Master around or even just staying up all night on the PlayStation.NLP Coach.I help them reconnect with their values, whats most Once you connect to your unconsciousimportant to them, create a new long-term vision then plan mind you become acutely aware of yourself,the goals and create the habits they will need to get them your truth and the things that make youthere.happy. You also become less tolerant of theHow did I get here?things that do not. Quite often men get to midlife and wonder how they got there.We spend so much time in our conscious minds,I had achieved the life goals of wife, kids, house,paying bills, feeding kids, getting our work done etc that cars, dog etc but didnt know where to go from there. Iwe neglect our inner selves.questioned where those goals came from because theyThis can result in self destructive behaviours, such as affairs didnt really feel like mine. or other forms of risk taking in order to create challenge I began to learn the art of coaching by asking myself someand excitement in our lives again.tough questions. The one that gave birth to The ModernMy coaching programs and The Club are designed to help Man concept was What doI have to offer the world? move through these times in a more controlled and positive Why? When I looked around me, I saw so many guysway.not really understanding what being a man means in todays world.Lacking in confidence.Confused.Not fulfilling their potential.Not understanding how modern women want to be treated. Worst of all, not being able to communicate these feelings or having a space in which to do so. 05'