b'CONSCIOUS, LOVING DIVORCECan you shift your consciousness from fear to love?IEverything that shows up in our lives is was devastated, every day for a month or more. I hadmanifesting through us as an opportunity nausea and a horrible tasteto heal unresolved childhood wounds, lodged at the back of myto find wholeness and return to our unlimited source of divine love. throat called fear. In 2010,In adult relationships, we are my second marriage brokeunconsciously seeking the love, down. Adeles Rolling Inrecognition and validation we The Deep was on the radiolacked in childhood and any and I cried inconsolablyunresolved issues that are not every time it played. healed in the marriage play out in a divorce process. Denial is the first phase of anyIn marriage, we expect our partners to bereavement and I remember pretendingbe our source of deep love and fulfilment, to my kids and family that everything wasoften unaware of these unconscious forces okay, in the hope my husband would comecreating conflict and pushing us to heal: hence home. He didnt and life as I knew it had changedthe possibility of divorce is high. Most people will irreversibly. have two or three significant love relationships in their lifetime In reality, during the last few years of my marriage, I had beenand so its essential we learn how to divorce so we can create angry and resentful. We had gone through huge financialhealthy love in the future. Surely, the quality of our future challenges and I blamed my husband. I thought I was lovingrelationships will only be as good as the depth to which we him but, in truth, my love was conditional. I had becomeheal our breakups?disconnected from love. When the shift from Why me? to What is being revealed Even in those excruciatingly painful early days, I knew I was onto me? happens, we begin to understand the covert ways our the cusp of something big. I felt this stirring, this energy rising inunconscious behaviours contributed to the breakdown. me. The pain was a catalyst for deep transformation, my heartThere is great power in this as we move from victimisation was literally cracking open and I reconnected to this sacredto reclaiming our power. space within me. It was bittersweet. In finding love within me, IThrough awareness and self-responsibility, we take the first felt this indescribable love for my husband but it was too late. steps to creating freedom from the past.Divorce is one of lifes spiritual curveballs and you have aThe experiences of both my divorces help me to serve my choice.Do you let it use you? Do you use it to awaken toclients highest good. To share the principles of conscious loving the truth of who you are? Can you shift your old ways ofdivorce and help them find a better way to part, to master being and step into your highest self?difficult emotions and upgrade relational skills.I chose to use divorce to serve me. I awakened to the realisation that nothing was happening to me. Everything was happening for me, so I could evolve my false love perceptionsMaxine Clancy is a transformational and outdated relationship patterns.relationship & trained divorce coach with a The most common questions I am asked are Why me?background in Transpersonal Psychotherapy and Whys this happening to me?Through coaching, I helpbereavement counselling. She is a certified Calling clients to shift this perspective to What is this revealing toIn the One Coach and a certified Heartmath me? Coach.Divorce is an insult to the ego. The ugly, triggering aspects ofMaxine is the founder of The Divorce Detox our personality that we disown are highlighted. Most of us areand Get Divorce Fitprograms, helping women ill-equipped to deal with intense emotions such as jealousy, anger, fear, resentment, shame and humiliation. We feel totallytransform and thrive during and after divorce. powerless and our ego will do whatever it can to survive,She has been featured at the London Divorce Fair, often to our detriment. In a conscious, loving divorce we seekUKHealth Radio. Her book The Divorce Detox to experience ourselves and others through a compassionatewill be released in September 2020.heart. maxineclancy.com24'