Coming Home to You – Sarah Ilaria Northe
What does ‘coming home’ to you mean and why is it necessary?
It’s my belief through experience in my own life, and through delivering thousands of hours of intuitive coaching and healing to others, that most of us are in crisis.
We are in crisis in our relationships, our health, about the world around us and our meaningful purpose. We’re searching for answers outside of ourselves to bring us peace and liberation from the dis-ease within us.
But the wonderful thing about crisis is that it presents as much opportunity as it does challenge.
The approaches I have developed in transformational coaching and inner child healing are designed to help you remember the pure and potent wonder of your true essence.
This is what has been forgotten from a very young age when we have experienced imprints, wounds and traumas which have caused us to reject, abandon, shame and judge our young selves.
We fall out of love with ourselves and this broken relationship then reflects in every relationship we have within our world.
Working transformationally with the inner child utilises the quantum theory of no time and no space to alter a client’s reality – past, present and future. The approach works with the whole self; the emotional, energetic, mental and physical dimensions, working across time and space to heal old stories and shift limited perceptions.
This enables clients to take full responsibility of their power as a creator and for their own unique creations. We are able to heal the wounds of our own perceptions and take ownership of how we relate to ourselves and therefore to the people and the world we perceive around us.
It is necessary to begin a whole new love affair with yourself?
Without the ability to love all aspects of yourself, every relationship becomes a mirror reflecting back on us the shadows we find unpalatable within ourselves.
We hide away our vulnerabilities but then see them illuminated in our relationships. We resist them and the consequence is that we deny the other person permission to love us fully as we truly are.
This way of working as a coach is hugely demanding and life changing.
As a coach facilitating these processes, it’s essential to walk your talk and commit to being fully present and genuine in the coaching relationship. My own relationship with myself and my younger fragmented selves is crucial and, to hold space effectively for my clients, I must consistently commit and re-commit to my own healing.
It’s always fear that stops us from taking this path of intimately relating to our true essence. Fear that we are not enough, fear that we are not worthy, fear that we will be rejected and of course fear that we will not withstand our own brilliant divinity.
It is that last sentence which my soul knows to be the truth. It’s that brilliance and light that my inner child recognises as home. It’s the place where she spins with her arms outstretched knowing she is pure, perfect and complete.
The tragic truth is that so many times, every day this brilliance is denied – with a harsh word, yet another criticism and a further dimming of that light.
In my last workshop, I sat in circle with 11 other women all coming face to face to with the young children and teenagers they had abandoned decades ago. Powerfully, they reunited with them and reclaimed them.
It is stark and painful to see how the children within us have been neglected, shamed and mistreated with our constant internal criticism, avoidance of feeling our emotions and ever-present worry about what others will think.
However, the healing that’s possible through the process of reintegration and nurturing is a joy to witness. The power of love and compassion to heal the broken relationship with self, results in physical, emotional and mental healing that has been previously impossible.
You can find out more in my book ‘Find Your True Northe- Awaken to the pure wonder of Transfomational Coaching.
Sarah Ilaria Northe is a deeply intuitive coach, healer, trainer, supervisor and writer. She is founder of True Northe Coaching Academy, creator of the CLEARER method of Transformational Coaching and the Inner Child Transformation Process and co-creator of Equine Facilitated Coaching. Her style of transformational coaching and coach training has been developed over 20 years and she also delivers professional programmes, retreats and workshops in a beautiful countryside setting.